Sweet People, Life Lessons, and Meditation

Such a wonderfully fun day! Out early to go to this thing called Handworks, which is a holiday event filled with vendors from all over the U.S., bringing their wares, jellies, clothes, jewelry, pottery, toys, soups, fudge, art, most anything that can be made by hand, it’s there. I got some fun items for me and the kiddo and some nice treasures for gift giving for Christmas.

Then Mama and I went to eat lunch, grabbed some more school uniforms, and then off to get groceries. After that, home to chill with my dog. My babe had to work today, so we were missing her, but I know she’s happy to be earning some good moola for Christmas.

Don’t you just LOVE Saturdays? They have so much potential. There are so many possibilities! I mean, you get ALLLL day Saturday and then you have another day to look forward to. You get to sleep in if you want, go anywhere – I mean, the world is your oyster. Within reason, of course, but I just love the freedom, man! It rocks!

Except for those of you that work weekends. I know that sucks. I remember when I did it and I didn’t particularly care for it but you do what ya gotta do to pay the bills. Heck, I remember working on Thanksgiving Day when I was younger and that truly sucked but I remember not only my family bringing me a huge plate of food at lunch into the store, but I had different friends come in and bring me yummy food, too. See, even when you have to work on a holiday, things can still be great when you have love.

Love is the one cure for everything. Maybe not everything, but it even makes the hard things seem a little easier to deal with. With love, there is soooo much power and strength and it can make any place feel like home because love is home. I’m getting a bit mushy today, aren’t I?

Well, I’m just thinking of this sweet lady Mama and I met today. We were at the grocery store and Mama was going one way with her cart and I was going another way with my cart and I was looking at the reading glasses and I asked if she’d help me pick out a cute pair. This sweet lady just gave us both a huge compliment and then she shared a piece of her soul with us. She shared how her daughter passed away from cancer in 2009, and then she lost her husband in 2012, and lost her sister, and the years were all pretty close together. You’d think her heart would be broken and feeling lonely and pathetic. I know I would be. But she wasn’t broken.

She held a sweet light in her eyes. She teared up speaking about them and apologized for burdening us and we invited her to keep talking. She shared how she was best friends with her daughter just like me and Mama are. She talked about her boys who were still living and are so good to her and they take care of her and don’t live too far away, and her sweet grandchildren and great-grandchildren. She said she was 83 and explained that God must have something important left for her to do and she’s good with that. She said, “Not once have I asked, why me?” She said even when she was holding her daughter in her arms as she was dying at the youthful age of 49 (my age), even through her daughter’s suffering, not once did her daughter complain, “Why me?”

She had such a love in her heart and her eyes, this sweet woman, that I could feel the energy of it. Do you ever get that from people? Their power? The love they hold? Of course you do. I mean, we definitely feel people’s energy, good or bad, but the good, OH MY! I can just eat it up with a spoon! I LOVE when people share their hearts. It teaches me such a valuable lesson – or tons of lessons, in fact.

And then, at Handworks, this gentleman shared how his mother-in-law is in the hospital and she may not be here much longer. She’s 94 and so beloved by all who know her. She’s their rock. And he was explaining how she was telling him, “When God feels it’s my time, I’m good with that.” And he was sharing, with his pained heart, “We are not ready for that. Please hang on just a bit longer. Your new great grandbaby will soon be here and they have to know their Meemee.”

I can learn lessons from each of these people. Can’t you? The sweet lady in the grocery store, her daughter that passed, the man at Handworks, his mother-in-law. The main thing here is love. Love as much as you can, as many people as you can, as often as you can, everywhere you can, because life goes by in a blink. And all the while, even though we may suffer and struggle and experience tragedy and heartache, there is always, always, and yes, I’ll say it again, always something to be so thankful for, if only to have lived. To have lived on this planet is such a beautiful blessing. To experience the human existence is a beautiful thing. It’s a treasure, really, and you never know when it’s going to be over. So treat it like a treasure. I’m talking to me, too. Love. Love others, forgive them, love yourself, love your life, ’cause it’s the only one ya got, babe. Treasure your life. And share your heart, maybe even with strangers, because you never know how you may affect someone’s life with your story. And never, no matter how bad things get, never ask, “Why me?” I know I’ve complained waaaaaaaay too much and I’m gonna stop because life truly is a blessing to me and I LOVE my amazing family and we have been blessed with more than we deserve.

Just think about it.

Okay, so enough mush for today. On to more benefits from daily meditation. Oh, I didn’t do the med till 7pm, but it’s all good. At least I did it and that’s all that matters.

More benefits are:

  1. Help senior health
  2. Healing thoughts
  3. Better relationships
  4. Help Lightworkers

And one last thing before I sign off, my dear ones, I’m so much a better person for knowing you and I’m so blessed to have you in my life, even if it is in passing. For each of you that shares a piece of your soul and your story with me, thank you for enriching my life. You fill me with love and I love you for being you. Keep shining your light and never forget the power of sharing your love and your heart with a stranger, or even just listening. Sometimes that’s all a person needs. You don’t have to understand or always have something to say. Sometimes listening is enough. I love you, sweet babies.  xoxo

Good Vibrations

Top o’ the marnin to ya! (trying to sound Irish, with my probably 10% Irish blood).

Hope y’all are havin’ a lovely weekend (with my true southern twang).

Welcome to day 5 of the Meditation Challenge! How’s it working for you, so far? Are you finding a little peace? Is it easier than you thought it would be? Or is it driving you to INSANITY AND BEYOND?!

It seems I’ve gone GIF happy. I cannot stop myself. Is it the meditation that’s making you crazy? Or is it me?

Well, let’s get to it, shall we?

Oh, wait!

For those of you wondering about Hallie, she made it safely to Tennessee. She had a wonderful time catching up with her beloved friend and she left early this morning, heading home.

Miss that little love monkey but I’ve had a nice weekend getting my roots done (I don’t think I’ll ever embrace my grays so I try to keep it the dark blonde I had before the grays starting showing up), shopping with my mom (although she’s not been feeling great for the last week, poor babe). She’s better today, thankfully.

A beloved member of our family passed away yesterday – Aunt Sallie. She had not been well for some time. She was always a sweet and funny lady. Sleep well, Aunt Sallie (1928-2017). We love you, we’ll miss you and we’ll see you soon.

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Now, I suppose I’ll get to the meditation portion of today’s post –

At first, when I started meditating, I would lay on the couch, and at the time, I started meditation because I had just quit working for a devil of a woman I used to call my client. Working from home since around 2011, I’ve had various clients and sometimes more than one client. Well, she was the absolute worst. She made me physically sick. That’s bad stress and I could not contain my tears, my nerves were a wreck – shaking and stomach issues – I was so tired of letting this person continuously damage me physically, mentally, and emotionally, so I QUIT!!! I just could not deal. Now, I had over 20 years of working for attorneys, before starting to work from home, and they were perfect angels compared to her. That’s saying something!! I was so exhausted that when I tried meditating, I was out like a light. Less than 2 minutes and I was gone. That’s when I learned laying down during meditation was not a good thing.

Sometimes, I’d go sit in my tree swing – this canvas setup that has a footrest and I can lean back, put my arms on the armrests, put a drink in the cup holder, flip the headrest out of my way and just gaze upward at the tree. I have always LOVED trees. For me, trees and rain and mountains (nature) connect me more strongly to God than anything else. The tree is so strong and beautiful and resilient and loving. It shelters me. I feel like it’s holding me in its arms when I sit in that swing, as if my loving Father is holding me. I feel protected and safe.

I still sit in that swing a good bit to reconnect with that peace. It’s perfect. Absolutely perfect. And when I want an actual stay-awake meditation, I sit in my office chair, with my back supported and my head free. I have fallen asleep in my tree swing on many occasions.

More benefits from daily meditation:

      1. Whole brain synchronization – this occurs when the various parts of your brain begin to work together, resonating at the same frequencies and causing neural pathways to fire more rapidly. The left and right sides of your brain begin to work in concert with each other. Electrical activity and energy patterns in your brain become more widespread throughout the brain instead of remaining confined to certain areas. Your brain reaches extraordinary levels of performance.
      2. Quiets mind chatter.
      3. Stress less. Reduces stress or helps you to stress less.
      4. Spiritual awakening.It’s quite possible that you are now undergoing, or might soon undergo a “spiritual awakening”? Like a butterfly emerging from its cocoon, once your inner transformation to a higher level of consciousness is complete, likely benefits:• A bulletproof sense of inner peace.
        • True happiness, no matter the circumstances in your life.
        • Feeling at one with everyone & everything.
        • Unconditional love for all living beings.
        • Finding your true self and your true path.
        • A worry/stress/anxiety free natural existence.
        • A very fulfilled, meaningful life.
        • Deep healing of mind, body, and spirit.
        • A permanent higher shift in consciousness & understanding.

     

  1. Let me know how it’s working for you. It may take a few weeks before you reach any of these benefits. I actually did start to feel a shift with my first meditation, but probably due to an overwhelming need for peace at that moment, before I completely lost my everlivin’ mind, thanks to that biotch I worked for (trying to curb my language so I could be a WHOLE lot worse here – I’m developing better habits and one includes STOP cussing like a sailor).

At times, sitting there “trying” to meditate made me angry because I simply could not relax, plus the meditations I was listening to were poorly done – walking was recorded in the background, the person offering guidance either misspoke or the person editing the meditation did not listen to it and pasted parts together that did not match – and I kick myself for buying that stupid package. However, I did get a little out of it, so it’s fine. I just won’t buy anything else of hers. And why buy anything meditation related? There are so many free options out there, it doesn’t make sense to buy anything. Take it from me – Save your money. Do the free stuff.

If you don’t like the other mediations I’ve posted, here’s another. You keep thinking she’s gonna talk forever but she doesn’t, so stick with it. It lasts appr. 21 minutes.

Have a fab rest of your weekend. Let me know how the meditations are working for you.

Love and hugs,

-Carol xoxo

Let’s Call it Day 2 of the Meditation Challenge?

I’m only saying that because it’s Nov 2 and it’ll be easier to go with the day. Don’t ya think? I’ll double up one day so we can get at least 30 days mixed up into these next 29 days of November.

So welcome to day 2 of the new meditation journey or challenge or whatever you want to call it. The fact that you are taking part in this means that you care about your mental health.  It also means that you care about your physical health, emotional health, spiritual health, because I am here to share with you that meditation helps you in each of these areas.

If I had known the many benefits meditation had to offer, I would have started this years ago. In fact, I suppose I did actually “try” to meditate and I could blame it on not being able to find the ‘right’ meditation for me, or the ‘right’ music, or in the ‘right’ frame of mind. I actually believe – the truth, if I want to be honest here – is that I am very ADD. I always have been.

It wasn’t until I purchased a meditation course that MADE me choose to do the meditation. At first, I got so much out of it, but then the person guiding the meditations, along with her staff, started to annoy me greatly, so once I finished the 32 or 33 day course, I stopped using it. I still got enough out of those 33 days that I wanted to look for ways to continue this practice. I started researching meditation and the different forms and the many benefits and it really turned a light on for me.

If you are anything like me, and I know many of you out there are probably just as much ADD as I am, and very busy, you don’t want to add just one more thing to your already too long daily To Do list. But please believe me when I say you cannot afford not to invest your time in some form of meditation. Each day for the next 29 days, I will include several benefits where meditation can help you better your life. It’ll probably be difficult for you to believe at first, because we are fighters.

We fight tooth and nail not to do things that might change us. Oh, sure, we say we want to better ourselves, we want to live at a higher vibration but most of us want to stay stuck in our old story because it’s what we know. We’re good at it. New stuff? Well, it scares us, so we push it away. Or we don’t know about it and that scares us, so we say no way, it’s not for me.

Well, this challenge is for those of you/us that are choosing to be better, to feel better, to learn how to deal with daily stresses and depressions in a healthier way. There really is a better way to live. And you don’t need money to do it. You don’t have to purchase a meditation package. There are so many freebies out there. Just google meditation videos on youtube. Look for the ones that sound interesting, the ones that have the most views, or listen to it for 5 minutes and see if it’s for you. I will try to list some to help you out.

On to some of the benefits:

  1. It slows aging. Sounds crazy but it’s true. There is scientific evidence of this. Don’t take my word for it. Google it. Research it.
  2. It can help you overcome OCD.
  3. It assists you in learning to control your anger. This is HUGE for me! I have anger issues, okay? I actually think that behaviors can be genetic (not blaming anyone else – I own this), so this is something I must have gotten in the genes from my bio-father, and this is a behavior I work on. Every. Single. Day. And, honestly, I already feel less angry, partly because I will not allow myself to swear. Oh, yes, I can cuss like a sailor but I am attempting to mature into healthier habits and that includes my vocabulary, as well as getting my anger under control.
  4. And last (for today), but not least, meditation fills you with positive energy. We could all use more of that. Am I right?

One little tidbit – if you want to join in this 21-day meditation series that is free, Deepak Chopra and Oprah (hey! that rhymes!  😛  ) are putting on a series right now. I’m on day 4. Check out the link and if you have any problems, let me know. You will receive instructions when you sign up for the series. If you don’t, let me know and I can explain how to sit, etc.

Let me know what you think. If you don’t like this particular meditation, I’ll most likely post a different link tomorrow. All you need is about 20ish minutes of quiet stillness.

Hope y’all are having a great day or evening! Love you!

Carol xoxo

 

Fight, Flight or Light

Okay, so we all get fight or flight, right? We’ve all been there. Both come pretty easily to us, depending on which one we feel we need. We have been put in positions where we must fight back, stand our ground, protect someone or something.

We have been in flight mode where we feel the need to get the heck outta there! Run! Don’t look back! Whether we’re scared or just realize that person or thing is simply not for our best.

How many of us have tried to choose light? In this context, my meaning is out of the norm – looking for the light in the situation or circumstance. At times, or I’m figuring all the time, a particular thing is happening because it has something to teach us. I do believe there is a lesson in everything. I think sometimes we cannot move past something because we either fight it or choose flight, but if we still haven’t gained the lesson, it keeps coming back to bite us in the rear, so to speak. We may feel it’s biting us because we are sooo not liking the situation. We don’t like being outside our comfort zone, or most of us don’t. We don’t like feeling uncomfortable. And I’m not saying fight or flight is always a bad thing. Sometimes we really do need to fight or fly.

But sometimes, we need to gain the lesson the situation is trying to teach us. Just try this. Next time you feel you are in fight or flight mode, ask yourself if there’s a lesson to be learned here. Fight or flight is sometimes a good thing, and we should never ever ignore our feelings. These feelings can save our lives, literally and figuratively. But even if you do fight or fly before you have a chance to seek out the lesson in that moment, try to contemplate the lesson afterward. If you get the lesson, maybe the same set of circumstances will choose another victim next time, as I’m sure that next person needs to get the lesson.

Questions? Your thoughts? Let’s chat!

Hope y’all have a totally groovy rest of your day or evening, whichever time zone you happen to be in.

Love ya!

Carol  xoxo

What Have You Learned From?

Learn was the prompt from yesterday.  I may not follow each and every daily prompt, just fyi, but this is a good one.

I believe this is one of our larger purposes on the planet — to learn.  If we only talk less and listen more, really listen, not just to our school teachers but all the teachers there are in life that surround us, we, we would gain much knowledge.  We can learn from our children.  I know I’ve learned more from my child than I have probably taught her.  She has taught me to love more, to see more beauty, to notice it.  She is the one who taught me how to forgive.  I talked about this in an earlier post but the short of it is that I watched her forgive someone who wronged her.  She decided she was going to make that person her friend.  Instead of being angry at the person or holding a grudge, like I had always done, she forgave that girl and she made her a friend.  When I saw that, I cried.  How could I continually hold grudges and hold onto such anger and resentment after she showed me how easy it is to forgive.  It never had been easy for me.

So, around that same time, God decided to test me and sent around a guy who terribly wronged me years earlier.  He was afraid to face me but had the courage anyway, so I got out of my car and talked to him.  We talked for 20 minutes and somewhere in the midst of our conversation, I realized I’d forgiven him.  And now, since that time, I’ve forgiven several people that wronged me, from the past to the present.  It feels so empowering, so liberating, so freeing.  It feels like you let go of a 100 pounds of weight from your back and shoulders and heart.  You feel lighter.  It’s not only a gift you give to someone else but more of a gift you give yourself, because to experience forgiveness, whether to accept it or gift it to someone else, it strengthens your connection and bond to God, to Jesus and even to yourself, as well as others — maybe even to the universe (energy).  It frees the flow of your pent up energy and you can breathe easier.

Not only from your children can you learn (and both the good and bad from your parents).  You can learn from the trees.  They stay planted and rooted deep within the earth, one of their greatest loves, their home.  They bend and they sway in the breeze and the storms.  Some of them might be washed away.  Some break down.  But most of them stay strong and though they may hurt and pieces may break from them, the whole of them stands firm.  They continue to grow and thrive and become strengthened for making it through the storm.

We can learn from the butterfly, flying free among the air.  They let the wind carry them.  They’re so light and joyful.  They start out crawling and are slow in movement and motivation except to eat and lay around.  Then, by a great miracle, it prepares itself for change and takes action (builds its cocoon) and should not be disturbed.  It’s a lengthy process and you might even believe it died in there, because it takes so long (we raised a caterpillar into a butterfly), digests itself and then after all its morphing work is done, it breaks free of it’s cocoon/shell/house, pushes it’s way through while strengthening itself and emerges a beautiful butterfly, and once its wings dry, it flies free.  What a beautiful thing to witness and learn from.

There is a lesson in everything.  Even within ourselves, we each have a story, we each have learned something valuable we can teach others.  If it is just to love or offer a kind word or give freely without expecting something in return, we are teaching someone else.

What have you learned from?  A parent?  A child?  The earth?  A tree?  The wind?  A book?  Witnessing a stranger?

Quote for Motivation

A member of a group I participate in asked a question and this is what another responded (below).  It really resonated with me and I needed to hear this today.  I hope it helps you, as well.  We can learn soooo much from each other!!

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“Luck is spelled W O R K — we make our own “luck” and we make our own choices in life — hopefully, they will be the right choices.  I challenge each of you to take time to help others reach their goals.  I promise you that in return you will reach yours as well.  Also, choose to be happy every day, even when your circumstances may not be what happiness is made of.  Even if you have to fake happiness to put that smile on your face — eventually you will realize that you are no longer faking it.  That “fake it ’til you make it” philosophy really works — look, act and feel happy/successful/healthy/etc. and you will be happy/successful/healthy/etc.  I experienced my highest highs and lowest lows when I was in commission-only sales — that’s when I learned to set goals and move above my comfort zone.  Everything worth having will require work to acquire.”

-Sandra Smith